Here is a simple list of areas that couples should try to strengthen and improve.   Trust me when I say that divorce lawyers know where relationships can fail, and we also know what efforts can be made to keep things going if the parties are interested in that outcome.  The simplified list is:

1. Delineate "yours," "mine," and "ours."
2. Carve out time to be together.
3. Take care of yourself.
4. Make sure communication goes both ways.
5. Criticize gently.
6. Never stop courting one another.
7. Keep the flame burning.
8. Spell out your terms of endearment.
9. Renegotiate your contract.

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